OT: I need some cheering up

[TSanders]

Sorry for the rant, but Im up at 3:25AM EST, and here seems to be the best place to vent.

My girlfriend Holly and I broke up tonight.

Weve been dating for almost 2 and a half years. For the last couple months Ive felt us fading apart. Its like who we were when we started dating isnt who we are now. Just seems like she had needs, that I cant meet, and I have needs that she cant meet.

Its tough. I think we will both be better off, but calling it quits with someone after two and a half years is hard. Harder than hard.

Just shoot me some prayers and good vibes if youd be so kind. You guys and gals have come through before, and Im thankful for that.

 

[tiffles]

oh mate so sorry to hear that.

 

[Steve Dude Barr]

You know...I do have a phone and am up half the night every night right??

(623) 975-5665

You can also instant message me on Yahoo at Probasses

All I can say is that I'm here to listen but as far as relationship advise goes I'm pretty much the last person to talk to.

 

[bassmonkeee]

Sorry to hear it, Travis.

Take small comfort in the fact that you two figured it out before 10 years of marriage and 2 kids complicated matters.

A tiny consolation, I'm sure, but it is what it is...

 

[koogie2k]

Travis....you are young and this will pass. I dated a girl for 6 years and when we called it quits I thought the world fell apart.......she could not handle my chosen career at the time......

Then I met another woman who I married. Have been married 13+ years and have a daughter with.....she is 100% supportive of things that I do (well, most of the time.... ) and had every right in the world to walk away from me several times....she put up with my past profession and has been literally through Hell 3 times because of me. I look at her each day and I thank God she is in my life. She is my soulmate, best friend, etc......

Basically, you will meet that one person who you will KNOW is the one for you. It stings now....but, it will go away and you will be okay......trust me. I know.

 

[revchrisesq]

Condolences, Travis. Breaking up, whether it's her or you that initiates it, is like a death in the family. And it doesn't get any better. Try a divorce after 20 years of marriage and three minor children. I've been there.

 

[SharonG]

It's always painful to walk away from someone you thought you had a future with. It will get beter, though - give yourself time - hang it there!

 

[Moondog]

Sorry to hear that Travis, it WILL get better with time

When this happened to me in the past, it was a great
reason to stock the liquor cabinet and hang out more
with good friends (I like this approach). It will all work
out. I thought I lost some good ones but I don't regret
a thing as I'm very happily married now and have the perfect
8 month old. You're young and have a lot of good times
ahead of you!

 

[roballanson]

Tough break man, but you will bounce back I promise you. We all come with baggage and break ups after a while, and believe me like the other guys I have had my fair share of world crushing events, but you will get through. Hurts like hell now I bet, but it won't soon.....peace from across the pond Trav.


now get on with some bass practise......

 

[Dees]

That's bad news, sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, there's no cure for this, so all I can do is repeat the clichés, like: "in the end it'll all tunr out fine", "If it wasn't going good, it's a good thingto break up",... but there's some truth in these clichés.

Take care buddy

 

[Randracula]

Sorry to hear it Travis. I know it's hard right now but it will get easier as time goes by. I know that 2 1/2 years seems like a long time right now but you're still very young and will eventually get over it and move on to better things. You have your best years ahead of you so don't let this bring you down.Just keep doing your thing and someday you will meet the right girl for you.......

 

[bassplayer7770]

I'm sorry to hear that, but, from what you've said, I think you made a wise decision. Cheer up. You'll find somebody else.

 

[JB1]

Sorry to hear it, Travis.

Take small comfort in the fact that you two figured it out before 10 years of marriage and 2 kids complicated matters.

A tiny consolation, I'm sure, but it is what it is...

+1

Commiserations Travis, but I'm afraid life does these things to us.

Best wishes.

 

[SteveB]

Travis,

I had a similar breakup ages ago, with a girl that I'd been with for over 4 years. When two people just grow apart... it's more puzzling than anything, isn't it? It's harder to accept for some reason. Hang in there though. One day you'll look back with the 20/20 vision that hindsight provides, and things will be clearer.

 

[Dr. Nick]

Sorry to hear that, Travis...it does suck...but try to remember that no one else is responsible for your happiness, nor are you for theirs...now plug in that EBMM and play some blues! (or funk or death metal or whatever!)

 

[Psycho Ward]

Hang in there Travis, time heals all. Sorry.

 

[Big Poppa]

Travis
Guess what?

You now dont have to answer for anyone for one of the only times in your life. Feel like bowling? Another 9......fishin', Heck yes! In these times devoted to YOu ...usually you stumble into someone who shares the stuff you love.

Also keep in mind that sometimes breakups are just time outs.....Stay busy and have fun

 

[stretch80]

Hey Travis -- one thing to do is write some songs...

Somehow great songs come out when you're hurting. May not make you feel better, but good songs are cool to have and play.

 

[dlloyd]

Its tough. I think we will both be better off, but calling it quits with someone after two and a half years is hard. Harder than hard.

Yes it is, and I've been through it before. I couldn't see it at the time but, ten year on, now I'm sooo glad it happened.

Hang in there.

 

[LisaIs]

God bless you Travis. I am sorry you are hurting.