To those who pray to Jesus...

[puppiesonacid]

Hey guys, listen i dont mean to get all personal and stuff on here but i really need as many people to pray for me in the next few days/weeks/months.


Today, my girlfriend and i might be breaking up. We have been dating for 3 years and im just overwhelmed. idk whats going to happen yet, we havent talked. Im going to be meeting her in an hour. its 12:47 right now.

theres a lot of stuff involved, trust issues, faith issues. Im just really insecure about myself right now and i need some prayer for strength and to be fearless amidst all of this.

If you want to PM me and give me some advise i would realy appreciate it. I know this is a guitar forum but you guys all really seem to be understanding and logical. To those who believe in Jesus, please pray. and to those who dont, please just leave something encouraging. I thank you all in advance.


God bless,

TOny

 

[koogie2k]

I sent you an e-mail bro. Hope all works out.

 

[PurpleSport]

Hey Tony -

REALLY sorry to hear you're in a bad place right now...life really sucks like that.

The main thing to remember above everything, no matter how bad you might be feeling at times, is that things WILL get better. May take a while longer than we'd prefer sometimes, but it does eventually happen.

Life moves in up and down cycles - sometimes out of the blue when you least expect it, and it blows you completely out of the water. Buddhists like to think that life is built around change and the degrees of suffering that goes with it, and it's a pretty good summary of the human condition.

Simply put, people generally like things to stay the way they are, and when the apple cart gets upset (like it eventually will for better or for worse), it messes us up. And sometimes, the stuff we don't want to happen has to happen anyway to slap some sense into us, because for whatever reason maybe we shouldn't have been in a particular situation to begin with and need to get out before fire damage to the psyche and soul sets in.

The fact that you seem to care about your relationship and your reaching out to us here shows you're fully capable of getting back on your feet, because you've got the foundations to do it with. Hang in there, man! It may be a bumpy ride for a while, but remember, it's only for a while, and it'll be over eventually.

Keeping all this in mind has gotten me through some REALLY bad times, like my recent divorce after nearly 12 years of marriage. I'm just a guy who was moving along through life and hit some SERIOUS speedbumps along the way (hooboy, the stuff I could tell you about - some of it only happens in movies!). The sad stuff that happens makes the good stuff that much sweeter later on in life, trust me. Personally, I'm going through a really good phase right now, and it only stands to get better (it sucked for quite a while). I assure you, it WILL get better for you too.

The upside of situations like this is that you might just learn a whole lot about yourself, and something amazing could be around the corner that you never thought migh be there. Ya just gotta hang in there and believe it'll happen, my friend...

P.S.: If things get really bad, no matter what you try, don't be afraid to talk to a therapist. I did, and never thought I would. Best thing I ever did, lemme tellya....funny thing is, it was my ex's idea to go see him!

 

[Hookpunch]

Hey Tony, I am not religious but you have my best wishes. Hang in there and keep your chin up.

 

[lock-ny]

Hi Tony, let me tell you that ive been there. I wasnt as worried as you appear to be but I had a break up a few years back and I wasnt sure if there was a mistake I made in there, but within months I actually met someone else and 2 years later I am engaged and happier than I ever would have been with the other woman, so I guess my point is that things happen in life and they often times serve you for the better even though you dont see it that way at the time, just go with it and remember that you will meet someone else if this doesnt work out so either way you win, I am not religious or christian for that matter but I am very spiritual as many musicians are and I will pray that you see the good in all this however it turns out for you, good luck and be strong -

 

[Hookpunch]

As I sit here and think about it , the same thing happened to me , I broke up with a woman was pretty devasted at it. Then a few months later I met the woman who would become my wife. Good thing I did break up with the girlfriend, I am much happier now, I likely would not have met my wife if we did not break up.

These things usually work out the best for both parties.

 

[kbaim]

Hope things work out for the best. Sometimes when we're feeling our worst, it translates into our most inspired guitar playing.

On the cd I mailed you, my last song "I'LL MISS YOU", tries to capture (and partially relieve) the pain when people that mean the most to you are no longer (or soon won't be) in your life.

The song was inspired by the last few months of my aunt's life (she passed away this past september). She was given 3-6 months back in 1983! Her kidneys finally failed her 20 years later.

I videotaped myself playing it, but she never got to hear it with the sax

When her birthday came around this past March, her son went to the grave site and cranked the tune for her. I totally broke down when he called me from there.

My advice is to write her a song Tony. It's great therapy and so much more you could share with her when the time is right.

KEITH

 

[PurpleSport]

Ditto for Lock and Hook's stories in my case too. Six months after my ex moved out, I met my current girlfriend, who's just been the greatest thing to ever happen to me. We celebrate 2 incredibly happy years together in less than a week!

Seriously, the most amazing things happen when you least expect them - and the stuff you learn from previous "failures" is often what makes successes happen later on.

Remember, pretty things often grow out of some pretty stinky, rotten stuff!

 

[OrangeChannel]

Dude!
I'm sorry to hear about your misfortune. Feel free to hit me and text scream or yeall or whatever. I've been thru a lot of stupid relationships/ situations myself, just don't let it get you down brother. Just gotta keep being yourself and believe in yourself. The minute you sight of your own self confidence is the minute you lose yourself. Focus on other things (guitars for one...) and place your positive energies into those things. That's all for now, hopefully everything is ok, but if not you've got the board here for ya.

Seacrest Out!

 

[peter71]

Prayers? Check!

Positive Thoughts? Check!

Lost of supportive people to help you out no matter what the result? Check!

Hey man remember, God will never give you more than you can handle. I have had some terrible breakups in my life, but they always make me stronger. I know that sounds like a bunch of yahoo, but it is true.

Just remember that Christ is with you.

Oh, and everyone else on this board it sounds like. Take it easy man and remember if you need a therapist, it is a great idea. Or a pastor or a friend, but don't let whatever happens get to you.

Oh, one more thing, remember, just because you don't break up today, doesn't mean that you won't later. Or just because you do break up today, doesn't mean it won't be different tomorrow. Keep working at it, relationships are work man. Always think about what you could do better, and don't ever assume it is nothing. Otherwise you wouldn't be in this situation.

Anyway, take it easy and I will definately be praying for you!

Peter

 

[SGMan88]

Dude I am so sorry to here that you are having a rough time now... I am indeed religous and I will definitely be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

---Hope it all works out for the best and hang in there

-SG

 

[puppiesonacid]

thank you all for your prayers, support and encouraging words. it means so much to me right now.

well guys we didnt break up. but i am not sure right now exactly how i feel about all of this. i dont know if staying in the relationship is the right thing, or if its healthy for me or her.

i know its not the end of the world, i have been through this before but the circumstances surrounding this event in my life are rather hard to get into on an open public forum.

maybe in a few days i can post whats surrounding all of this, but right now, just keep praying for me and if you have anything else to say to help me out feel free to post. i appreciate this so much.


God bless you all,

TOny

 

[milky]

Tony,
I understand you so much,
Saturday i broke up with my girlfriend after 5 years...and when we were talking about marriage...
Everything was good and one day she came and said there's a problem...I don't love you no longer...I care about you after 5 years but there's no more passion and love in me for you...
I think you can't understand what does it mean this...
Now i'm broken in, and i don't know what to do..It seems so strange to be lonely...

So time will tell

Milky