Divorce or get some balls

[Tobin31]

Bluepicasso,

Have you ever bought anything in the past where she has freaked out? How did you handle that? Did she get pissed then it passed?

Selling a lot of your other toys to fund the new guitar would probably help in your cause.

On the other hand, if you are financially secure and everything is looked after, bills, saving for Daughters College or whatever, car payments, vacation fund (you got one of those right? That might also help your cause if you plan a trip where your wife would like to go.) I say get the guitar LOL Life is too short.

I think being honest will pay off in the long run. You don’t want to have to sneak around every time you want to play your new beautiful machine.

Go at this with a plan of comprise, “Honey, what could I do to ensure this doesn’t throw us off our savings?” Honey, I think I am going to cut out _________ or __________ for 6 months. “Honey I am going sell ________ and _________ . “ “Honey, I really want to get rid of a lot of clutter around the house. I am going to sell a bunch of stuff and buy another guitar.”

Always talk solution, good luck!

Tobin

 

[fogman]

I usually just look straight ahead and say
Yeah... that's right... I bought a new guitar.....I'm the man in this family, I work hard for my money and i'll spend it any freakin' way I want to.......now get back inside and make me some chicken. *

(*just a bit of comic relief in the event my wife actually sees this)

and you actually eat the chicken???
Crazy man!

 

[Jimothy JP7]

Just ask her. If she says no, pull the 12 year old pout and don't talk to her until she changes her mind. Girls have things called hearts [I know right? weird...], so they have soft spots for those kind of things...


and if that dont work, after all the silence, at least when she leaves it won't hurt as much ;]

 

[mbgreene]

Or, if you play your cards just right, you can get the guitar and only piss her off enough so that she stops speaking to you.

Then consider that as an added bonus.

 

[Ricman]

Ok - my advice

"You've spent HOW much on a stupid guitar?"

"Listen b*itch - John-bloody-Petrucci taught me...OKAY??? Now go and clean the Latrine....."

Yep - that's how I'd deal with it....

 

[Beth]

I'm not going to go broke, that is not the issue. Obviously, the issue is I just spent a nice chunk of change on the JP7. I have a little bit of a spending issue. I buy everything and don't really care. I buy a lot of CD's, HDDVD's, Blu Rays. PS3 games, and electronics. What can I say, I'm a guy and like my toys. Of course music is more than just a hobby to me, but that is something my wife doesn't really care. She wants to save for the future and out daughter. I just want the guitar. Will $xxxx make such a difference 10 years from now. No I don't think so. The female mind works differently though. I lease my wife's does. I have a lot of crap to sell, so maybe I will try to sell some stuff. (watches, tv, electronics, etc)

Welcome to the forum, Bluepicasso! (a very interesting period for this painter )

Bullsh*tting the wife will get you nowhere in the long run. My advice is:

1) Diamond - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
2) Ask to make the purchase first. It's never good to act first and deal with the anger later. Tell your wife this: The BFR model is bound to be collectible one day. It's an investment that your daughter could benefit from 10-20 years in the future.
3) If she's upset about it, sell off some stuff and put the money toward the BFR.
4) If she's still upset, and you really really want the BFR (I would TOTALLY want the BFR over the Mystic), sell the Mystic one and that should take care of it

 

[morsecode]

Very good advice. Wow...marriage counselling all forms part their customer service package...very impressive indeed.

 

[fogman]

Good advice there Beth!
A woman's touch to boot!

I think you could probably show your wife how much the BFR means to you by scaling back on your other purchases, or even selling them for that matter.
Make a deal with her.
My wife keeps telling me that's what marriage is about!

 

[Jodizzle]

bloo i mean blue (little fosters there)

Mmm, turn off the TV!

 

[Big Poppa]

I love foggy who had to beg for three years to get ONE guitar giving advice on this subject.

I have a hard time with the control issues that are pretty common.

I think that the best thing is to sit down and plan a budget that covers all things present and future that includes an equal amount of discretionary "funny money" for both parties. IF you can stick to that and make sure ethat you spend your chunk wisely it should reduce the strain of finances and control considerably.

 

[Beth]

Very good advice, Poppa!

Addendum to my previous advice: SHE should also be asking YOU before she makes big ticket purchases like this too

 

[lock-ny]

The best marrige advice my brother gave me was "if it doesnt help the relationship, dont say it" - now he meant dont talk about nites on spring break in college, or any nite on college for that matter but it applies here as well, simply dont tell her how much it costs - hiding a tangable item from her you are doomed to get caught, but hiding the price should not be a problem -

 

[phatduckk]

when i lived at home my mom kept nagging me about my guitar and bass purchases.. "why do you need 15 guitars?". its a good question so id buy her a new couch or something.

also a trick i used was to knock off the digit in the thousands position when telling her the price. so as far as she knows my MM's cost somewhere in between $150 - $500

 

[73h Nils]

Psshh, I hear cars are over-rated nowadays.

 

[robelinda2]

well, i seem to be pushing it a little of late, but i'm ok for a few new ones i reckon!

 

[Jimothy JP7]

The best marrige advice my brother gave me was "if it doesnt help the relationship, dont say it" - now he meant dont talk about nites on spring break in college, or any nite on college for that matter but it applies here as well, simply dont tell her how much it costs - hiding a tangable item from her you are doomed to get caught, but hiding the price should not be a problem -

+1

Just buy it, then take some pics of it and have a friend post a fake Ebay thing for it for like $300. Then show the fake auction to your wife [after youve done begged to buy some BFR that costs a few grand], and tell her its a steal, "buy" it and bring her home.*



























*Advice may lead to heart fracture, puddles of blood and divorce. Do not take my advice if you are married, dating or pregnant. Side effects, although rare, may occur and include bagging up all your stuff and moving the hell out. See a doctor before usingmy advice. If you do take my advice, don't take the pics in your living room.

 

[roburado]

How does it go? It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission?

 

[glockaxis]

+1 Phatduck.