Honest Question...

[pearlredburst]

Hey guys..

I recently got engaged and I am very excited about it!

However, I am starting to get the feeling that in order to be able to pay for the new expenses I will be running into (i.e. a ring) I will need to get rid of a BUNCH of things that mean a lot to me, like my newly acquired John Petrucci 7 string...is this something that you guys see as worth while, or should I wait, or try and find other things to sell? I really am up in arms over this.

Thanks guys.

 

[robelinda2]

Ah i remember those days! When i got engaged to Belinda 8 years ago i took out a loan to buy the ring, sold a few guitars, luckily they were just strats and not EBMM's! Its only a guitar, sometimes there are just more important things in life, so make the decision thats best for you.

 

[Oldtoe]

My advice is to elope.

 

[TNT]

". . . .is this something you guys see as worthwhile. . . .or should I wait and try and find. . . ."


I don't know Pearl I'd have to sit down and talk to her first. She maybe worthwhile??

Oh, . . . you mean the guitar!!! Sorry! Uh, yeah, one DOES NOT have to replace the other.

Again, why are the guitars the first items to be put on the block in a financial crunch?? Why not the second car, or the extra TV, or the . . . . . . . . . . .

I got the "girl" and the "guitar" so I know it can be done!

 

[Dizzy]

Those new fake diamonds are supposed to be almost undetectable !!

 

[DavidOfOz]

On the radio yesterday, someone was saying, "How come guys have to sell everything they've got so they can buy an engagement ring, but the girl doesn't give the guy a thing in return!?" Someone said: "Yeah, I want an engagement Playstation...or an Engagement Plasma TV".

So here's a solution:

Tell your fiance she has to get you an engagement present of equal value to the ring. Say you want a Petrucci 7 string. Sell your Petrucci to your fiance, then use the money to buy a ring for her. Then get her to give you the Petrucci as an Engagement Guitar. A win-win situation!



Seriously though, I stopped buying equipment for quite a while, and saved, and saved, and saved to buy the engagement ring for my wife. Twenty years later...no regrets...and my wife offered to help fund a recent EBMM acquisition! Some things are more important than guitars. (Not many things, but some.)

 

[Colin]

normally I would insert a mother in law joke here, but guitars are easier to get than a soul mate. So if shes the one, do what you have to do.

 

[gbradtke]

Ah i remember those days! When i got engaged to Belinda 8 years ago i took out a loan to buy the ring, sold a few guitars, luckily they were just strats and not EBMM's! Its only a guitar, sometimes there are just more important things in life, so make the decision thats best for you.

Knowing how you think about strats I would say that it was a win/win for you both. Remind me to ask you when your 10th wedding anniversary is approaching whether or not your soon to be aquired BFR Albert is up for grabs!

 

[INMT]

.......maybe you should wait till you can afford a ring without selling anything.........

 

[gbradtke]

I think the most important thing is that you feel that you have made a significant contribution.
Looking back at my own circumstance I purchased a diamond from my father in law (who had some stashed away as an investment), and Louise and I went to a good jeweller who placed it in a setting to our liking. It took me a long time to pay Louise's father back doing works around his home, but looking back on it it was worth it. You may well find that the sale of something you really love to fund the purchase of something for someone you love is a bargain. I'm sure that she would appreciate your sacrifice. However - there are always other ways!
I have heard the rule of thumb is to buy a ring to the value of around 1 months wage.

 

[wahwah666]

I was down to ONE lousy Squier after many years of marriage. the perfect idea...a revolving fireplace as in Harry Potter/Indiana Jones etc etc. I simply hang all 12 of my guitars on the other side and then when she comes home I hit the button and it all spins round to hide my passion! Thing is I'm running out of space so I may have to employ more devious methods! NEVER sell a guitar in love...you won't catch her doing without handbags and shoes my friend! Now, a Gucci Steve Morse...THAT'S the ticket!

 

[robelinda2]

Knowing how you think about strats I would say that it was a win/win for you both. Remind me to ask you when your 10th wedding anniversary is approaching whether or not your soon to be aquired BFR Albert is up for grabs!

Hah! I'd have to be in serious trouble i guess!

I was thinking just the day that i hadnt seen you around here much, i was going to tell you to get off your ass, or ASS.

 

[mcvinyl]

Those new fake diamonds are supposed to be almost undetectable !!

Show me a woman that can't detect a fake diamond! Ask Colin my wife can spot them from 300 metres away. They've got vision like eagles for that kid of thing.

Simon

 

[silverburst]

Don't get me started on engagement rings.

Diamonds may be a girl's best friend, but there is nothing about a diamond (other than the manufactured demand, and the oppression of the miners) that makes it valuable.

A down-payment on a house would make a much nicer engagement present, IMO, especially with prices down as they are.

 

[the24thfret]

Don't get me started on engagement rings.

Diamonds may be a girl's best friend, but there is nothing about a diamond (other than the manufactured demand, and the oppression of the miners) that makes it valuable.

A down-payment on a house would make a much nicer engagement present, IMO, especially with prices down as they are.

I'm 23, but I can see this is a very wise statement. Well played.

 

[mb99zz]

I'd have to agree with Rob and Colin. As much as I love my toys (guitars, HDTV, Sirius radio...) at the end fo the day they are just material goods. The right soul mate and future mother of your children is far more worthy than a guitar.

My only suggestion would be to make sure your fiance understands your GAS and is willing to live with a purchase here and there as the years go on.

I'd also agree with Silverburst - try to get yourself into a house. My wife and I passed on a honeymoon and used that money to help with our downpayment on our first house. She did still get a ring -- just not the trip to Aruba!

 

[BigTony]

If ya having to ask, then I think you already know you dont wanna sell the JP!

 

[beej]

That's wise advice.

Better would be to marry someone filthy rich. As my lawyer once said to me, "Jay, you can marry more money in 5 minutes than you can make in a lifetime ...".

 

[73h Nils]

Yeah, don't get a diamond. The slavery and oppression that goes into those things is unreal. They're very common stones. Downpayment on a house or something else FTW.

 

[pearlredburst]

Well guys I have an ibanez electric and acoustic as well as some drum stuff I could alsi sell. Ill just have to see how things pan out from here..thanks for the tips and advice; any more is still appreciated though!