I'm not sure about the question. To me, learning 'by ear' means just listening to it, figuring it out on the fly based on the chord changes or riffs or whatever.
Transcribing is something else entirely.
FTR, I learn EVERYTHING by the seat of my pants.
Inasmuch as I know anything at all, of course.
I'm talking about learning to play songs by ear, and writting them down on staff paper as I go along. What is the difference between that and transcribing?
I'm not sure. You listen to the song, work out the note/chord/riff, then write it down on a staff or any piece of paper. Sounds to me like you already know how to do it. I suspect your question is more along the lines of how to get better at it, or how to do it quicker. The answer to that is to do it more often until your ear improves and your speed of transcribing the notes onto a staff increases.
Or, have I missed the intent of your question?
I really want to learn to play songs by ear. It's been frustrating for me. Does anyone have any tips to transcribe songs by ear?
the problem i'm having is actually figuring the song out in the first place.
I used to just write out the roots for myself, but then when the guitar player or piano player forgot HIS chart (or didn't bother to make one,at all) they all would mock how lame my "bass player chart" was.