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adouglas

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One of the very best things about this forum is that it's family.

A number of us have shared some of our personal difficulties, and the support has been truly heartwarming.

I'm afraid it's my turn.

My best friend and bandmate, Charles Mitchell, is a guy I've known for nearly 30 years. He's that rare kind of friend, the person who you will remain close to as long as you live. I think of him as my brother. He's the guy who first taught me to play.

He has thyroid cancer. This is not new; he was diagnosed about five years ago and has had two surgeries so far. Incredibly, his voice has remained largely intact and we've continued to play and perform. We've never sounded better. Singing is very important to him, and he and his wife harmonize beautifully. Playing with them is one of the greatest joys in my life.

Things have taken a turn. The cancer has spread to his liver, and he's also having a third surgery on his neck tomorrow. From what we're told, his voice will change forever. He may or may not be able to sing.

It's a very rough time right now the two of them and their 7-year-old daughter, as well as all of us who know, respect and love him.

As if that's not enough pain, their elderly Westie had to be put down last Saturday. Anyone who has a pet that is an integral part of the family knows how hard that can be on its own. On top of the surgery and the possible loss of a skill that is so important to him, it's almost too much.

We're staying positive about this. Our band will NOT end. We WILL continue to make music, even if it's different music. But there is no question that this is a huge, life-changing turning point.

This past weekend we got together to record what we could before the surgery. It was...difficult. It's hard to write about it. But we got it done. The performances aren't perfect, and it was pretty much all one-take recordings. But these recordings are going to be very precious to us.

He's going to what is arguably the best cancer center in the world, Memorial Sloan Kettering in NYC. I have absolutely no doubt that the outcome of the surgery will be as good as it possibly can be.

Please keep Charles in your thoughts and prayers.

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That's a beautiful post, adouglas, and wonderful tribute to your friend. Any chance you can post up the recordings? I'd love to hear them.

Postive vibrations coming your way, ja.

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Adouglas As Ive said before in life threatening times...Do not see ghosts....what I mean is to not project all that can go bad....stay in the present with only positive and supportive ways....You must have the cup half full...his voice is going to change? maybe it will be cool and add dimension? Im ot trying to put anyof his stuff on the down low or trivialize in amny way but each and every day is the day to focus on.
 

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Hoping for the best!

And to echo Sterling's remarks, staying focused on the positives is hugely important, especially in support of a loved one.
 

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We shall keep him in our prayers,

and please, you must stay positive for him through all of this no matter what the outcome. It's not about anyone but him from this point on. He'll need tons of support and strength, let it come from you...........

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Adouglas As Ive said before in life threatening times...Do not see ghosts....what I mean is to not project all that can go bad....stay in the present with only positive and supportive ways....You must have the cup half full...his voice is going to change? maybe it will be cool and add dimension? Im ot trying to put anyof his stuff on the down low or trivialize in amny way but each and every day is the day to focus on.

Thanks, BP.

That's exactly how we're looking at it. There are a number of high-profile cases where musicians have overcome things like this. Levon Helm released a critically acclaimed album in 2007, for example, and his situation was far worse. He had throat cancer and had to have radiation treatments.

I've kidded Charles that we just might have to learn some Tom Waits tunes....

Music is far too important a part of our lives to give up on.

Charles is in a really good state of mind going into this. But there's no denying it's a heavy load.
 

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Don't give up hope, Andrew! Keep the positive energy flowing to your buddy. Here's some more from Texas, sir.
 

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Good vibes and positive thoughts sent! Tell him some Chuck Norris jokes to make him laugh. :)
 

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All the best to Charles from half around the globe!
This is a very moving story, and it's marvelous that you have each other as friends!
 

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My thoughts and prayers are with your friend. Stay strong!
 

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Adouglas, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend. I hope your friend gets some good results from the surgery.
 

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Adoug, best of vibes to your friend, and he sure must be one hell of a friend to have put up with you for 30 years ;)

If worst comes to worst, I guess your role will be to kick his ass out of whining about losing his voice, kicing an ass that needs it being one of the things only such close friends can hope to do with any success.

Great post
 
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