Tips On Handling Upset Wives/husbands

[NoFrets80]

the female/bass interaction complex...

my girlfriend and i aren't even engaged yet (that happens next year if things go as planned for me financially), and already she has seen 4 or so basses come and go in the last year or two. it got to the point that she (half-jokingly) said 'no more basses'.... until the shiny thing that sparkles is on her finger. i explained to her that i had to go through a period of experimentation before i settled on the ones i wanted... better to go through that with basses than with girlfriends. somehow, that analogy made her feel better. haha!

 

[syciprider]

I find it easy. I treat her like a princess (little things like opening the car door for her) and show her that I am always looking for ways to improve myself so I can get promoted (= more $$$) and she lets me have my toys in appreciation.

 

[soniq]

I love my wife...she told me yes go ahead and buy the 05 LE Bongo if it makes you happy. Of course she knew 1) I had no money and 2) did that reverse-psychology bit on me, so it worked and of course I felt guilty. Smart woman she is.

 

[Melissa]

Honey if We split up it would cost us everything, by me buying this bass Im keeping the family together.

I am going to remember that one.

 

[stretch80]

If you wish to have new instruments go un-noticed.....

1. Have enough instruments so that he / she's not entirely sure of total count...5? 6? 7? (They don't all have to be basses).

2. Get some borrowing/lending going, so its normal for there to be new instruments showing up.

3. Pay cash ;-)

4. Write her / him a love song !

 

[Eggman]

If you wish to have new instruments go un-noticed.....

1. Have enough instruments so that he / she's not entirely sure of total count...5? 6? 7? (They don't all have to be basses).

Plus all of my basses are in the same sort of case - so every time I come up from the basement it looks like the same bass. She doesn't know if it is a Sterling/Bongo/SR or what. I did have to explain the 30th Ann SR - damn the distinctive case.

Then again at a gig the other night - she saw me switch between the Sterling/Bongo/SR5 and one of my friends said to her - "how many basses does he have?" Her answer was "I don't know - but it is a lot. I have stopped counting!"

 

[Lazybite]

I sorted it all out before me and my partner were officially together. Taught her why I need more than one bass.

The way I approached it was by telling her she didn't want to be stereotypical muso partner and not understand. It worked.

It also helps that we are both very anti-marriage, anti account sharing and anti living out of each others pockets.

Although she got me a few months ago.... because we are planning a couple of trips OS.. she said.. well if you want to to be able to go on these holidays you probably can't buy any toys for a while. She was right on that occassion.

Unfortunately it means I can't get my new PC, my new pro-tools rig, my second MM bass or my new amp until late next year.

 

[mrpackerguy]

Jack said it above, but basses coming in/basses going out, on a consitent basis avoids these problems. Oh, and the fact she can't spell ernieball dot com also helps.

 

[tiffles]

I find it easy. I treat her like a princess (little things like opening the car door for her) and show her that I am always looking for ways to improve myself so I can get promoted (= more $$$) and she lets me have my toys in appreciation.

now thats the way to do it!

 

[Bass-sic]

LoL....I have to laugh at this one BP..... Did you notice how MRS BP is far from this forum. Big Poppa is awfully brave when Mrs isn't around.
You are so funny.

 

[bdgotoh]

Wife: "There's a box here."

Man, just reading that gave me a little chill down my spine...

 

[Aussie Mark]

I use a similar approach to Jack. I appear unexcited when a new box appears, and have a range of explanations that I use on a rotating basis.

"That one? It's been in the case for a while and I just took it out today to change strings"

"I just brought this one back from being repaired. The guy has had it for 6 months, which is why you don't remember seeing it before"

"You don't remember that one? I played it at ________ (enter gig details) a couple of months ago. You were busy dancing a lot that night so maybe you didn't notice which bass I was playing"

"_____ just brought this one back. I'd loaned it to him because his son is learning bass"

"That one? It's an old one that I've had repainted in a different colour"

 

[todd4ta]

It also helps to buy empty cases sometimes. When they arrive, open them up to "prove" there's nothing inside. It's a good diversionary tactic.

 

[Big Poppa]

LoL....I have to laugh at this one BP..... Did you notice how MRS BP is far from this forum. Big Poppa is awfully brave when Mrs isn't around.
You are so funny.

My wife is terrified of you creatures!

 

[tkarter]

BP you are mostly correct.

There are circumstances that wasn't due to poor training. Those are caused by poor planning.

I was a musicain as a kid but gave it up until well into manhood and marriage.

Been married so long there is no training or bull crap that get's on by on either side of the fence

When that need happens. It is time to just say. " I did it"

Three days maybe four of cold shoulder will ensue. Shipping takes longer than that no big deal


tk

 

[SteveB]

My wife is terrified of you creatures!

..and with good reason... she got to meet several of us at the Firestone Grill last year!

 

[tkarter]

Was anyone from Kansas there Steve?

tk

 

[Bass-sic]

My wife is terrified of you creatures!

Lol...thats what I thought.....or was that another one of your wife training tricks? Naw....I think I'm going to go with the fear.

 

[bovinehost]

My wife is terrified of you creatures!

As is my wife. But Mrs BP is very good at acting like she's NOT terrified. My wife, not so much.

 

[tiffles]

erika doesnt strike me as a woman whod be afraid of anything!