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I take two days off work to spend time with the kids and thread of the century happens.
Fellow Forum buddies, this topic is very close to my heart. I was brought up by very strict parents - especially my mum, and we often got a good slap across the legs, and on the very rare occasion, when I was in my early teens, she lost it a bit too much and I got a couple of kicks from her - but all in all we had a loving and enjoyable upbringing.
I always said that I would have no trouble with giving my children a good slap if deserved, because the usual it did me not harm and I turned out alright.......
BUT, the reality of it is, now that I have three girls, currently aged 5,4 and 20 months, I hate the thought of touching them and have only slapped them on very rare occasions.
For instance we were in the kitchen at the weekend and next thing we heard an almighty bang and found the 20month old lying at the bottom of the stairs. Her four year old sister was peering down from the top and I ran straight up to her and asked what had happened. "I pushed her" I can't say hand on heart that I was 100% in control, but I had to give her a whack across the back of the legs. The shock that I did it probably hurt more and probably was the more effective because I cannot remember hitting her before, but my wife and I always agreed that we would only slap the kids if they had done something dangerous.
Saying that, I have three beautiful kids and they are all bright and confident and cheeky, but so far, they know how far they can push it and all know the meaning of right and wrong (well the older two obviously).
I worry continually about trying to find the balance between not hitting them and being able to instil discipline and respect.
I think that being Catholics and going to church every Sunday also helps because the two of them are probably more scared of what will happen if they upset "Holy God" than they are of upsetting their parents.
I want happy, confident, charismatic children who will grow up to try to live as good a life as they can. We have to take each day as it comes and then wait for the day when my eldest at the age of eleven brings home her 14 year old eminem look-a-like boyfriend for tea!!!!
If you bothered to read all this, thanks for your patience, this forum is much cheaper than therapy or parent support groups!
Best of luck
Liam
I take two days off work to spend time with the kids and thread of the century happens.
Fellow Forum buddies, this topic is very close to my heart. I was brought up by very strict parents - especially my mum, and we often got a good slap across the legs, and on the very rare occasion, when I was in my early teens, she lost it a bit too much and I got a couple of kicks from her - but all in all we had a loving and enjoyable upbringing.
I always said that I would have no trouble with giving my children a good slap if deserved, because the usual it did me not harm and I turned out alright.......
BUT, the reality of it is, now that I have three girls, currently aged 5,4 and 20 months, I hate the thought of touching them and have only slapped them on very rare occasions.
For instance we were in the kitchen at the weekend and next thing we heard an almighty bang and found the 20month old lying at the bottom of the stairs. Her four year old sister was peering down from the top and I ran straight up to her and asked what had happened. "I pushed her" I can't say hand on heart that I was 100% in control, but I had to give her a whack across the back of the legs. The shock that I did it probably hurt more and probably was the more effective because I cannot remember hitting her before, but my wife and I always agreed that we would only slap the kids if they had done something dangerous.
Saying that, I have three beautiful kids and they are all bright and confident and cheeky, but so far, they know how far they can push it and all know the meaning of right and wrong (well the older two obviously).
I worry continually about trying to find the balance between not hitting them and being able to instil discipline and respect.
I think that being Catholics and going to church every Sunday also helps because the two of them are probably more scared of what will happen if they upset "Holy God" than they are of upsetting their parents.
I want happy, confident, charismatic children who will grow up to try to live as good a life as they can. We have to take each day as it comes and then wait for the day when my eldest at the age of eleven brings home her 14 year old eminem look-a-like boyfriend for tea!!!!
If you bothered to read all this, thanks for your patience, this forum is much cheaper than therapy or parent support groups!
Best of luck
Liam